I'll Find Him With You II: The Wait

When I was little, I LOVED looking at wedding dresses and veils and flower bouquets. I'd even draw pictures and make paper dolls with a wedding theme. Besides the natural enjoyment of pretty things, there's that built-in desire to be married and see that dream wedding happen. The feminist movement might belittle the role of marriage, but in God's plan, it's a beautiful plan for a man and a woman. If your desire is to be a Godly wife, you're right on track!

But lets say you're too young to get married. Or maybe you're like me -waiting for God's best to find you. It can be a frustrating season of life to be in, especially when you see friends finding their first love and planning their "big day." Your heart kind of sinks and you think, "When's my turn?" But I've got good news: Life doesn't have to be a drudgery in the waiting time. Realize that God, not your marital status, defines your life. You've got a purpose - orchestrated by God - that goes beyond marriage. It may include marriage, but whether or not you have a husband doesn't determine your value. God made YOU first, and YOU have a mission to accomplish in this life. Knowing that God values you at whatever stage in life you're in is so liberating! You're not in a contest with your friends to see who can have a greatest relationship first. You're not striving to have a boyfriend to make you feel accepted and loved. God loves you and has your best in mind. Never forget that!

I found a verse that really helped me out: "The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit . . ." I Corinthians 7:34

When I read that, it was like a little place in my heart that had been set free. This is my purpose while being single! To care about the things of God above anything else, and to strive to be holy in every way. I don't have to be absorbed in those nagging emotions that say, "You're lagging behind! You're not married yet! What's wrong with you?" There is NOTHING wrong with being single! As a single person, I am free from many responsibilities that come along with being married. I can take that extra time and energy and use them for the Kingdom of God. Wow! What and exciting possibility!

Psalm 37:4 says, "Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart."

So while you're waiting, while you're serving and delighting yourself in the things of God, you Heavenly Father is orchestrating your love story. The desire to be married is from Him, and He desires to fulfill it. He hasn't forgotten or overlooked your love for Him. He is a "rewarder of those that diligently seek Him." God doesn't scrimp when it comes to fulfilling His promises. You'll be more than pleased with His choice for you - a choice far better than you could have picked for yourself. He's good at that.

Remember this, Princess, "the best comes to those who wait." And God never intended for any time in your life to be a "waste." There's a purpose to "every season under heaven." Look at this season as a an opportunity to develop your life as a Princess - a beautiful woman of God who is going to be the delight of her husband's heart.

I'm excited for you!



I'll Find Him With You I: The Song

I'll Find Him With You
No ring on my finger, no beau on my arm,
Does the world think I'm crazy for waiting so long?
Just a hint would be nice, to know that I'm wanted,
Are You really saying that You can be trusted?
You say it's true, if I'm seeking You . . .
I'll find him with You,
I'll find him while on my knees,
I'll find him with You,
Your presence is all I need,
The love I desire just could not compare to this.
I'll find him with You.
Not wishful thinking or some pleasant dream,
But a promise You'll keep, 'cause it's virtue I seek,
You say I'm Yours always; You define who I am,
In a world of facades, true love's in Your plan.
You say it's true, 'cause I'm seeking You . . .
Long, long ago You gave me Your best,
With this proven love, what more could I ask.
I know it's true, when I'm seeking You . . .
He'll find me with You,
He'll find me while on his knees,
He'll find me with You,
Your presence is all he needs,
The love he desires just could not compare to this.
He'll find me with You.
(c) 2006 Words and music by Christa A. Heider

More to come on this next week!



I Believe

Christmas is coming up (have a great one, by the way!), and everyone tends to think a little bit more about the Christmas story. The entire story is awesome, but have you ever stopped to analyze Mary? Back then, girls got married very young - around 14 or 15 years old. Yikes! Me getting married that young would have been a disaster. Then add to that the incredible responsibility of carrying the Son of God. I would have been stressed out!

Take a look at Luke 1:28 & 29: "And having come in, the angel said to her, 'Rejoice, highly favored one, the Lord is with you; blessed are you among women!''

Have you ever had an angel suddenly show up in your bedroom as you're putting on your shoes, and announce, "Get excited, girl! God's been watching you, and thinks you're incredible!" I'm with Mary: "But when she saw him, she was troubled at his saying, and considered what manner of greeting this was." In our vocabulary, she was shocked, confused, and a little freaked out.

Sometimes we think of Bible people as being extremely holy, non-emotional, and level-headed. But they were people just like us! Mary was busy serving God as a dutiful young Jewish woman. She had her daily routine - cleaning, shopping, laundry. She was in love with the man of her dreams, and was planning a wedding. She wasn't expecting a visit like this! But - surprise! - God had been watching her. He had seen what kind of girl she was - a young woman after His heart - and He had chosen her to carry His Son into the world. Wow!

I'm sure her brain was working overtime when the angel announced, "You will conceive in your womb and bring forth a Son, and shall call His name Jesus." First of all, why did He choose me? And how on earth does someone conceive by the Holy Spirit? What am I going to tell Joseph . . . and my parents . . . and my friends? How do you take care of the Son of God . . .?

But despite all the questions her finite mind came up with, her answer came from a heart that was set on God (verse 38 - paraphrased), "Here I am! Let everything happen just like you say it will." By her answer, we know God had His girl. He knew her heart and the willingness in it to do whatever He asked her to do. She already knew His heart, His ways, His love - so obedience was a natural response.

Now, what if Mary had said, "No way, mister! There's no way a girl could get pregnant like that - and with the Son of God, no less! What are you thinking? That's crazy!" Would God's plan to bring the Savior into the world be suddenly shut down? "Oh," I can hear the angel say, "excuse me. I didn't realize . . . maybe I got the wrong address. Maybe I just misread the orders from God . . ." No, God's plan doesn't end because of someone's unwillingness. He'll find someone else! But how pathetic it would be for a person to forego being used in a supernatural event just because it seems so beyond their thinking.

What I'm getting at is this: Mary was an "average" girl in the world's point of view. But what set her apart was that virtuous, God-seeking heart that catches God's eye. You don't have to be born into a high-status family to be chosen by God. You don't have to be "up front," known by more than just the handful of people in your tiny town. There's no rule that says you have to be multi-talented and witty. The only criteria is willingness. Willingness opens the door to the supernatural working of God - an incredible plan that only He can think up.

Don't let your brain get stuck in small thinking, Princess! Open it wide for God's dreams to come in. Something fantastic could be birthed, impacting the world with far more than you could ever imagine!

"Blessed is she who believed, for there will be a fulfillment of those thing which were told her from the Lord." Luke 1:45